‘He dug out interviews and said, ‘I read he is a Casanova’’: Bhavana Pandey on convincing her father to accept Chunky Panday; how to overcome family objections | Feelings News

Convincing family to accept a relationship can be an uphill battle, especially when preconceived notions and public perceptions come into play. In a recent interview, Bhavana Pandey opened up about getting her hesitant father’s approval to marry Chunky Panday. In conversation with Radio Nasha Official, she opened up about their love story, revealing that Chunky was the first to propose. “We dated for nine months, and then he proposed. It was a sweet one.” As a flight attendant frequently travelling to Frankfurt, she recalled the challenges of staying in touch before mobile phones. “Calling was expensive, so I saved money to call Chunky.”
She shared how he casually suggested marriage during dinner in Delhi, saying, “I’m buying tickets to see you wherever you go — let’s save money and get married.” Bhavana initially rejected the proposal, calling it unacceptable. “Then, he went on stage, sang my favourite song, and made it romantic. The next step was convincing my parents. My mother was okay because she had met Chunky,” she added.
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However, Bhavana’s father initially disapproved of their relationship. “My father was very against it. We have a very different kind of background. Both parents in service, he didn’t understand the film world. He dug out interviews and said, ‘I read that he is a Casanova’. There were so many rumours, so papa ko manaane mai time laga, but he finally agreed. Today, Chunky is more of a son to him.”
In many cases, resance to a relationship isn’t just about the individuals involved but also about cultural backgrounds, career choices, and societal expectations. Understanding how to bridge these gaps can help couples and families communicate better and build trust.

Overcoming family objections rooted in societal perceptions or stereotypes about a partner
Neha Parashar, senior psycholog and relationship expert at Cadabams Mindtalk, tells , “Parents often object to relationships out of concern rather than malice. Acknowledging their fears, rather than dismissing them as ‘old-fashioned,’ creates a more open and non-confrontational space for discussion. Addressing their worries with empathy can help build understanding.”
When presenting your partner to your parents, she suggests highlighting their strengths in ways that resonate with them. “If financial stability is a concern, emphasise your partner’s work ethic and long-term security. If reputation worries them, share real-life examples of their kindness, commitment, and shared values. Framing your partner’s qualities in a way your parents can relate to can help ease their apprehensions.”Story continues below this ad
Instead of trying to prove their beliefs wrong, she adds, allow your parents to form their impressions. Encouraging meaningful interactions allows them to see your partner for who they are. 
“Personal experiences often challenge stereotypes more effectively than words alone. A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships suggests that direct interactions break down biases faster than passive discussions. Parents are more likely to change their perceptions when they witness positive qualities firsthand,” notes the expert. 
Finding common ground
Parashar recommends, “Rather than debating who is right, reframing the conversation around long-term happiness can foster understanding. Relationships should be built on respect, love, and shared goals rather than outdated social expectations. Shifting the focus from tradition to emotional well-being helps bridge the generational divide.”
Compromise is essential, but it shouldn’t come at the cost of one’s core values. For instance, if parents ins on a traditional wedding while the couple prefers something simpler, finding a middle ground that honours both perspectives can ease tensions while maintaining authenticity.