Ranveer Allahbadia on who stood him after controversy

Difficult times often reveal who truly stands us. Ranveer Allahbadia, widely known as BeerBiceps, recently reflected on this after facing intense backlash over his remarks on India’s Got Latent last month, which led to widespread backlash against him and other content creators. 
Recently, he addressed the situation in a new podcast episode featuring Buddh monk Palga Rinpoche. He spoke about how the experience exposed both fake and genuine people in his life. “Aksar jab aisi cheezein hoti hain zindagi main toh logo ke asli characters dikh jaate hain aur aksar log kahenge, ‘Haan, unn rishtedaaro ka character dikh gaya jo log fake friends the unka character dikh gaya.’ Par iske saath saath bohot logo ke acche characters bhi dikh jaate hain (Often when such things happen in life, people’s true characters are revealed. And many will say,’Yes, the true character of those relatives was exposed, and the fake friends showed their real face.’ But along with that, the good character of many people also comes to light).”
He also shared that while some relationships turned out to be inauthentic, his closest friends remained his side. “Jo actual kareebi dost hain voh saare mere liye the. They were all present. Bohot saare mentors aaye. Kuch kuch aise log hain jinse main kabhi zindagi main mila bhi nahi hoon, baat bhi nahi hui hai. Unn logo ne saamne se call karke madad kari (The friends who are truly close to me were all there for me. They were all present. Many mentors came too. There were even some people whom I’ve never met in my life, never even spoken to — and they reached out on their own and offered help). I’m just treating this phase as an opportunity to grow.” 
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However, he acknowledged that opinions on how he should move forward varied. While some suggested he take an extended break to reflect, he felt that action and hard work were the only way forward. “Agar is daldal se nikalna bhi hai toh voh bhi actions and mehnat se hoga, I think. Aur 1000 log 1000 alag tarah ki advice de rahe hain (Even if I have to get out of this mess, I believe it will only happen through actions and hard work, and right now, a thousand people are giving a thousand different kinds of advice).” 

How can one dinguish between genuine support and performative sympathy when faced with a crisis?
Neha Cadabam, senior psycholog and executive director at Cadabams Hospitals, tells , “In emotionally vulnerable times, it’s natural to crave connection and support—but not all support carries the same weight. Genuine support often comes with consency, quiet presence, and a willingness to len without judgment. It doesn’t seek attention or validation. You’ll find that people who care offer empathy without making the situation about themselves.
On the other hand, performative sympathy may appear in the form of exaggerated concern, public displays of support, or advice that feels more self-serving than helpful. “One way to dinguish the two is to observe how someone shows up over time—true support tends to remain steady, even after the spotlight fades,” Cadabam notes. 
How should someone process conflicting advice after a major setback and decide on the best course of action?
Setbacks can be overwhelming, not just because of the event itself but the influx of opinions that follow. “In such moments, it’s important to pause and create space for reflection before acting. Conflicting advice, though well-intentioned, can cloud one’s judgement,” explains Cadabam.
She suggests that a helpful approach is to tune in to your own values — what feels right to you, what aligns with your sense of self, and what offers long-term growth rather than short-term validation. Talking to a trusted mentor or therap can provide an unbiased perspective and help process emotions. It’s okay to take time before deciding your next step — clarity often emerges when emotions settle.