‘Sach bolu ki jhoot’: Former cricketer Yuvraj Singh’s mother Shabnam on building a relationship with his wife Hazel Keech; expert on bonding with child’s partner | Feelings News

Building a bond with your child’s partner can be a delicate experience — full of hope, hesitation, and a whole lot of heart. 
For Shabnam Singh, meeting Hazel Keech, the woman who would eventually marry her son, former cricketer Yuvraj Singh, was anything but traditional. “Sach bolu ki mei jhoot bolu? Mera kuch function tha (Should I tell the truth or lie? I had some functions to attend). I found this cute little girl trying to make him catch popcorn,” she recalled during a recent interview with Curly Tales, reflecting on her first impression of Hazel with both affection and humour.
While the beginning of Yuvraj and Hazel’s love story had its fair share of slow-burn moments — including Hazel ignoring Yuvraj for nearly three years before finally saying yes — the mother-son duo has spoken openly about the joy of having Hazel in their lives. In an earlier interview with The Hindustan Times, Shabnam said, “It was an incredibly special moment for me to see him getting married and to know that my responsibility is less today because Hazel is there to also take care of him. It’s a good feeling. I would like to be more at ease now. I am glad that Yuvi is in good hands with Hazel.”
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Yuvraj, who appeared in an episode of The Kapil Sharma Show with Hazel, also reflected on falling in love with her. He mentioned in Hindi, “I said, ‘She didn’t give me the time of day for three years, and I never got a chance to be with her. I don’t know what this girl thinks of herself. Stay away, but I still want to marry this very girl.’ After three and a half years, she made me chase her for another year. And only after that did she finally say yes.”
So, what are some healthy ways for parents to build trust and warmth with their adult child’s partner?
Sonal Khangarot, a licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherap, tells , “For parents, trust and connection grow best when rooted in authenticity. Just as we nurture relationships within the family, developing a bond with an adult child’s partner requires showing up genuinely, without pretenses or guardedness.” 

Relationships aren’t built overnight, states Khangarot. “According to attachment theory, trust develops gradually through consent, positive experiences. Just like a garden, it needs tending, patience, and space.”
“Every person brings with them a unique hory — shaped their upbringing, culture, and values. Rather than rushing to judgment or comparison, approach your child’s partner with curiosity and respect,” states the expert. 
Do single parents look for emotional support for their child in a partner—and how does it shape the relationship?
Khangarot observes, “As a therap, I often see single parents — especially those who’ve been the sole emotional anchor — feel a deep sense of relief when they believe their child is “in good hands.” It’s natural for them to seek emotional partnership or support for their child in their spouse, almost like passing on a baton of care.” Story continues below this ad
However, while this intention comes from love, it can unconsciously place a lot of emotional responsibility on the partner. If not navigated mindfully, it may create pressure or expectations that strain the couple’s dynamic. It’s important to allow the relationship to evolve organically, not as a replacement, but as a new, shared journey.