They’re not just emojis: How Netflix’s Adolescence exposes a hidden teen code | Lifestyle News

The release of Netflix’s drama series Adolescence has ignited discussions about the hidden meanings behind emojis and teen slang, raising concerns among parents and educators. The series portrays how adolescents use seemingly innocuous symbols to communicate about sensitive and potentially dangerous topics, often without adult comprehension. 
For instance, the red pill emoji is depicted as a symbol linked to incel culture, representing a belief in uncovering a so-called ‘real truth’ about societal structures. Similarly, the kidney bean emoji is used derogatorily within certain online communities. These covert communications highlight the challenges adults face in deciphering the digital language of today’s youth. 
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So, how can parents and educators effectively stay informed about the evolving slang and emoji usage among teenagers to better understand their communications?  
Neha Cadabam, senior psycholog and executive director at Cadabams Hospitals, tells , “The world of teen communication is constantly evolving, and it can be overwhelming for adults to keep up. Rather than trying to learn every piece of slang or emoji meaning, the focus should be on staying curious and open to learning from teenagers themselves. When adults create a safe space for dialogue, teens are more likely to explain their language voluntarily.”

Educators can also incorporate discussions about digital communication into the classroom, treating it as a cultural phenomenon rather than a behavioural issue. “This makes students feel seen and encourages mutual understanding. Parents, on the other hand, can explore trusted online resources or engage in light, non-judgmental conversations about what different terms mean—often teens enjoy explaining the “codes” they use when they feel it is not being policed,” notes the expert. 
Strategies to encourage adolescents to share the meanings behind their digital language
The foundation is always trust over surveillance. One helpful strategy is to ask with genuine curiosity rather than suspicion. Cadabam states that if a parent or teacher sees a new emoji or phrase and simply asks, ‘I’ve seen this being used a lot—what does it mean?’ it invites teens to share without feeling interrogated.  
She adds, “Another effective approach is modeling openness. Adults can share their own digital habits or even their confusion with certain trends, which makes the interaction feel like a two-way conversation instead of a monitoring exercise. Over time, this builds a sense of mutual respect that makes teens more likely to open up about their online communication styles.”
Considering the potential risks associated with misinterpreting these symbols, how should adults approach conversations with teens about their online interactions?  Story continues below this ad
The key is to approach these conversations with empathy rather than urgency. Cadabam says, “If an adult is unsure about a symbol or phrase and suspects it might be inappropriate, instead of assuming the worst, it helps to ask questions like, ‘What does that mean in your friend group?’ or ‘Do you think everyone uses that emoji in the same way?’ This opens the door for reflection without triggering defensiveness.”
It’s also important to recognise that teens need privacy as part of their emotional development. The goal should be to create an environment where they want to come to adults with concerns. Framing discussions around curiosity, safety, and shared responsibility — rather than fear — can help adults guide without invading.